Category Archives: marriage

Cheryl Strayed on Dancing With the Stars?

The new season of Dancing With the Stars started this week. If you are new here, you might not know how much it means to us, so yes…I’m going to link to this post. I’ve linked to it a million times … Continue reading

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When I was growing something wild and unruly….

I miss the Dixie Chicks. The kids and I have been listening to their CD’s in the car lately and my heart just soars with every song. I read somewhere recently that Natalie Maines said she doesn’t think the Dixie … Continue reading

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A Writer’s Guilt

I’m up in my office fretting that I should be downstairs. Feeling guilty about holing out in my room. I’ve not done much writing today. The family pull, the feeling of obligation is strong. I’m half downstairs anyway, even when … Continue reading

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Fifteen Years of Hot Toddiness

He’s happy because it’s our anniversary. That’s not actually why he was happy. He was stepping outside to shovel/snow blow after working from 8-4:30 and driving home in a blizzard. And yet, look….happy. It’s a look of “If you’re going … Continue reading

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Some Things I Like About My Husband

1) He fixes my Kindle when it freezes up. 2) He often fills up my gas tank without me asking (I would never ask…I know how to fill up my own tank…but it is nice when he does it). 3)He … Continue reading

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I check my look in the mirror, wanna change my clothes, my hair, my face

So I was all gung-ho for my 10:00AM hair cut appointment yesterday. I got Riley out the door, made a plan for Seth, jaunted off to my appointment excited and nervous. I checked in at the salon. Sat down, flipped … Continue reading

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Random Snapshots

Friday, the alarm woke me up and I stumbled into the bathroom. Riley was already in there, brushing her teeth. I grabbed my toothbrush and joined her, me in boxer shorts and a white t-shirt. She in her pj’s. She … Continue reading

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Salt & Pep!

I know I usually write nice things about Hot Toddy, and generally he’s a great guy. But we’ve been married almost 15 years and it isn’t always perfect. There is one thing I have endured all this time, day after … Continue reading

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Bite Your Tongue? Or Save the Cheese?

“He’s a smart man. I don’t get it?” I was talking to Amy about HT. Lately, after almost 15 years of marriage, he’d taken to leaving blocks of cheese in the fridge drawer, unwrapped. Amy was sympathetic. She shook her … Continue reading

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Write Me a Poem

A poetry reading last night. My friend Amy’s husband presented. He read poems about torture, poems about racism, poems about his beautiful daughters and a very gorgeous viscerally romantic poem about his wife. When I got home, I took HT’s hand … Continue reading

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The Call

Today is the first day of summer camp for the kids. I had an appointment for an educational evaluation for Riley, so Todd dropped them off. He said our girl bopped right in, introduced herself to new counselors, greeted ones … Continue reading

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Our Mini Vacation in Hocking Hills

You could barely see our cabin from the one lane dirt road you drove up on to get to it. It was the perfect combination of comfort and rustic. Nothing fancy. And yet, it had a full kitchen (complete with … Continue reading

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In My Mind We’re Fred and Ginger

Did I mention Hot Toddy and I are taking ballroom dance lessons? For one hour on Wednesday evenings, we meet in the cafeteria of a local high school. Our instructor is Mitzi. She’s a senior citizen. She’s about five foot. … Continue reading

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14 Years

I was out doing some Christmas shopping and Todd was home with the kids. A song came on the radio, and Riley leaned over to Seth and out of the corner of her mouth said, “If Mom were home, she … Continue reading

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Appreciating HT

My husband knows every word to every M*A*S*H episode. Every word. He loves the show. So of course, he “had a moment” over Colonel Potter dying this week. RIP. My husband’s favorite movie of all time is It’s a Wonderful … Continue reading

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Snapshots

I’m going on a date tonight with Hot Toddy. It’s been a rare thing for us over the past eleven years, though hopefully it will become a more regular occasion ’cause a friend and I are experimenting with a monthly … Continue reading

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Self-care

Todd has today off and is not working until tomorrow afternoon. With his encouragment I am at a hotel two seconds away, and for the next 22 hours, I do not have to answer to anyone. No one will demand … Continue reading

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All you unmarried gals, see what you’re missing?

Drying off from my shower, HT is stretched out on the bed. We’re chatting, all light hearted when I catch a glimpse of toes. His toenails specifically. “Your toenails are atrocious, and they’re a hazard,” I scowl. “A hazard to … Continue reading

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Bitter Sweet Father’s Day

The Bitter About five years ago, after over a decade of total estrangement, I began allowing my father in, just a tiny bit. Having a little boy gave me empathy about what it must have been like to be “little” … Continue reading

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Pillow Talk

The other night, I turned out the light, then requested HT spoon closer. “How can I get closer?” he asked. “I want your molecules, all smashed up against mine,” I said. He snuggled in a bit more. After about ten seconds … Continue reading

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