Runnin’ on Faith

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This is the Dr. Seuss house Riley made in clay class. I aged ten years during its construction.  

Here we are on the way to her art show yesterday.

 

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Here she is at her art show. Adorable, right? That she is. And sweet as the day is long. I’d give a limb to rid her of the anxiety that tortures her so.

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Ah….clay class.

In 14 years of knowing HT, I’d heard him say the F word exactly once.

But there is a second time for everything.

He accompanied her to clay class last week, and that’s all I’m gonna say about that.

Three more classes and the session is over. We’ll be taking a little break. Riley doesn’t respond well to valium, but mama might try it.

What else? What else? Oh…despite the fact that our date got canceled, we decided to have a lovely romantic evening at home on HT’s birthday after we tucked the kids into bed. 

I changed the living room into a restaurant, (because c’mon, I wasn’t about to clear off the dining room table) ordered take-out, put in a few restaurant-ish CD’s, and hit “shuffle.”  Joe Cocker, Eric Clapton. Billy Joel, Luther Vandross and for the life of me I can’t remember the fifth.

 

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We sat down to eat in candlelight. 

“This is just as wonderful as a restaurant,” I said, taking my first bite.  

And HT, with a “How you doin’?” look said, “Even better.”

We smiled at each other.

And right at that moment, we heard a wicked wretch from upstairs. Seth threw up again.

 

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He made it to the toilet that time, so clean up was a breeze. We got him settled back into bed, and soon we were back on our date.

 

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We even got to do some things we wouldn’t have if we’d gone out, like slow dance to Eric Clapton’s Running on Faith, and sing Only the Good Die Young (you Catholic boys start much too late) as we danced in our living room. I mean, we could have done all those things had we gone out, but it would have looked weird.

Today, all is well. Seth feels better. We had a cake for HT (couldn’t do it yesterday with Seth being ill).

Riley is breathing easy.  

You see, she’d been worried sick not enough had been made of her Dad’s birthday.

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I want these two to get married, and repopulate the world with people just like them.

 

 

*Thanks for passing Jessica along Amanda! Thanks to Kathleen W. for the drummer boy! Notice his flashing hat, and his adorable facial expressions as the video gets rolling.

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Happy Birthday Hot Toddy!

Today my sweet husband is 45.  

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He ushered in 45, staying up all night with Seth who was puking. He took the big rug out of Seth’s room and hung it over the deck to be hosed off later. He took load after load of towels and sheets two flights down to the basement to be washed. He soothed his sick boy.

Todd and I both had the same bug earlier in the week. It wasn’t pretty.

The only thing he wanted for his birthday, was an evening with me.

 

I arranged a sitter and planned a date at a wonderful restaurant. I’ll be calling soon to cancel.

It might not seem like a big deal, but seriously, it was. We rarely get out together. He’s very disappointed.

This is Todd and Seth kickin’ back in our little cabin on the Alaska 2008 cruise. Tight squeeze in that room, but we had the best time. He loves his boy.

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This is the young hospital pharmacist I fell in love with.

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I didn’t know him back in the 80’s when he was a pirate, and it is one of my regrets. He’s never so much as said, “Arrgh” to me.

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Here he is with Riley at Seth’s preschool dance  a few years back.

He never wavers about her. He holds a vision of her being successful, and powerful and happy in this world. He claimed it the day she was born. I didn’t see her for a couple of hours after they got her out, but he did. He was with her the whole time. He describes her eyes, as having been so aware, so wise. He’d never seen anything like it. She was otherworldly to him. “She’s here to do great things,” he always says.

When Seth was born, I heard his cries and remember Todd’s soft voice, all choked up, carrying him over to me, whispering to our new son,

“Hi buddy. Hi buddy.”   

Here we are at my friend Janet’s renaissance wedding a few years ago. He’s was a trooper about the costume, and he always puts up with my close up self-portraits of us. The more up your nose obnoxious the better.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Perhaps you are aware of his homework whispering talents? 

Or that fact that he recently went all the way with the bulb bald head.

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Here he is getting a smooch from my sister. She loves him. How could she not?

Come hell or high water, baby. We’ll have our date. I promise. Not tonight, but another night soon.

You’re a good man Todd O’Neil.

I love you. I appreciate you.

Happy, happy birthday.

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Asperger’s on Story Corps

Drama Mama brought this video to my attention. It made me cry. I love Joshua, and I love his mom.

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Living Laughing Loving

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This is what Seth picked out of the prize box at school. They get prizes in his class when caught doing something good. It’s a checkbook holder. He “thought it matched what we do in our family.”  Now that I think of it, I never even found out what “good” he did.

To think he would forgo the stickers, and doodads, and pick this. 

He just melts me sometimes, you know?

Like, every day.

When he says “thank you” every single time without fail as I put food down in front of him.

When he doesn’t like something I’ve cooked, but doesn’t want to hurt my feelings, so he says, “I kind of like it, and kind of don’t like it.”

When he makes a point of mentioning to others at school that T. (the boy with Asperger’s) is the smartest one in his class.

When he mistakenly says his daddy has a bulb (bald) head.

I could go on for miles about this boy.

I love him much.

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Cathy Bolton

I woke up this morning, itchin’ to write about Cathy Bolton. She was among a group of people on the Caribbean cruise I had the privilege of spending an evening in Puerto Rico with. It was my friend Betsy’s birthday celebration, and her friend Jorge took us on a walking tour, and Kathy is a friend of Jorge’s as well, and she was there.

She was way on the other end of the table, and someone whispered she was an amazing musician, the likes of Ava Cassidy. So…as we were walking along, checking out shops, giving Jorge the thumbs up on a great new hat, I asked her about her music.

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We talked just a bit and she mentioned she might be having a small concert on board the ship, and she said she’d invite me. And she did.

A few days later, the last night of the cruise, Cathy Bolton performed for about 20 people in a little side room on the ship. It was beautiful.

She is the Music Director for the Conversations with God Foundation and performs four times a year at spiritual retreats with Neale Donald Walsh in Ashland, Oregon. Her voice is sweet and sometimes haunting. Think of Dolly Parton’s most soulful ballads. 

During the concert, my friend Don, the adult with Asperger’s I met on the beach, interrupted a couple of times, appearing very overzealous in wanting to record Cathy and put the video on You Tube for her. Cathy, not knowing who he was or what he was about was very gracious, and then firm about what felt right to her. As a mother to a child with social deficits, I held my breath, “Please don’t be mean to him, please don’t be mean to him.” And she wasn’t. She handled it with perfect grace.

One song she played, titled “Give Me Wings” brought tears to my eyes. It speaks from a woman’s heart of needing more, asking for space within a relationship for her own God given gifts to grow. I bought Cathy’s Angels and Eagles CD and listened to it on the plane on the way home, passing it up to Ed for a listen as well, (And he liked it. I saw him jot down Cathy’s name).  

Actor/humanitarian Dennis Weaver was a dear friend of Cathy’s and she put his words to song in a beautiful balled titled Dream Your Eagle. It is on the Angels and Eagles CD and you can also listen to here on Dennis Weaver’s website. It is so very inspiring.  

Looking out at the heavens, hearing Cathy’s sweet voice on the plane ride home was the perfect ending to the perfect trip.

Just thinking about it gives me chills.

I am so blessed.

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Happy Birthday Beautiful Friend

May 11th. It’s Clarissa’s birthday.

We’re both still rooting for each other.

May your day be as gorgeous as you are, sweet friend.

Love.

Always, love.

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I Love Myself So Much…

At the concert Friday night, our encore was a very simple bouncy little song they sing at the Agape International Spiritual Center(and at our church too), about how you can’t love anyone else unless you love yourself. The choir went into the audience and we picked random people to sing to, and they sang back, and we all kept switching partners, and the whole place was singing, and dancing and smiling. People just lovin’ themselves so much! So they could love others so much! And on and on.

Look at the darling little partner Seth found for himself. These are the lyrics we were all singing to each other…

I love myself so much,
So I can love you so much,
So you can love you so much,
So you can start loving me.

Of course it is easier for them, being so fresh from God. It’s more of a challenge for adults to hold hands with a stranger and sing,”I love myself so much.”

Most of us have been conditioned to listen to outside voices, telling us we’re not lovable. Not worthy. Not good enough how we are. I love myself so much? Please.  

But one woman I met at the conference shared how she’s come to see self-love as a Divine mandate, because as the song says, you can’t love anyone else without it. 

I love myself so much,
So I can love you so much,
So you can love you so much,
So you can start loving me.

Love.

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Everything is Holy Now

I bought the 21st Agape Choir Anniversary CD over the weekend. A lot of the songs we sang at the conference are on it, and they are all inspiring, but one song I’d never heard before just blew me away.

God bless Google, the artist who performs it is Faith Rivera and it’s on her website for you to listen to, just because you are so totally beautiful and good.

Happy Mother’s Day. Everything is holy now.

Love.

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Great Lakes Unity Music Conference With Rickie Byars-Beckwith and Tim McAfee-Lewis

“When the praises go up, the blessings come down.

When love goes out, that’s when love comes in.”

I had more fun last night, more joy than I ever remember having. The Great Lakes Unity Music Conference wrapped up with a concert. People from all over the country took part. We met each other on Wednesday, and by Friday evening we had ourselves a choir.

Under the direction of Rickie Byars-Beckwith and Tim McAfee-Lewis, magic was made. There were around 200 people in attendance, and all of them were on their feet. The energy in the room was electric.

Let’s talk about Rickie. Musical genius. Divinely inspired. Powerful. Gentle. Loving. So loving. So cool. Seriously, the “cool” factor in Ricky is otherworldly. She is the music director of the Agape International Spiritual Center in LA. The wisdom this woman carries in her stride! Being in her presence was such an honor. She is married to Rev. Michael Beckwith.

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Tim McAfee-Lewis is Rickie’s right hand man, and he is brilliant. To meet him is to fall in love. He is so pure, and honest, and passionate. He is an open pipeline, just allowing God to flow through him and you can’t help but “catch” it when you are near him. Being directed by him in a choir was a transcendent experience. He gives EVERYTHING, and you just want to, have to, give it back to him. He has this rare combination of sweetness and power. His light is so very bright.

Everyone adored him, but as Seth’s mama, I will forever extra love him and hold him in my heart. You see, he and Seth share a particular teeth chattering “tic.”  Rickie described Tim’s tics as spirit flowing through his body and having out. Isn’t that nicer than calling it a disorder?

The first night of the conference I came home and found Seth upstairs huddled in his bed, afraid of the thunder and lightening outside his bedroom window. Snuggling up with him under his covers, I shared,

“Seth, I met a man tonight, who is an amazing choir director, and an amazing singer and dancer, his name is Tim and guess what? He has the teeth chatter. “

Seth’s eyes went big. He beamed. He’d never heard of anyone else who did that.

Since he was feeling scared of the storm, I taught him one of the Rickie Byars-Beckwith songs we’d learned that evening,

“All is well, all is well, everybody catch that all is well.”

We took it to his fears.

“In my bed, all is well, everybody catch that all is well.”

“In the rain, all is well, everybody catch that all is well.”

“The grass is thirsty, and all is well. Everbody catch that all is well.”

“Seth is safe, Seth is safe. Everybody catch that all is well.”

“Seth, Tim thinks of his tics as Spirit moving through him.”

“That’s just how I feel,” Seth said.

“It’s a little different from how doctors see it, isn’t it?”

He nodded.

“Which way feels better to you?”

“Spirit,” he grinned.

He went to sleep happy, thinking about a man who was kind of like him.

The next day I tapped Tim’s elbow, and briefly told him about my boy, and how much it meant for Seth to hear about him. He was so gracious.

Then, Kathy( the music director at our church whose vision brought this conference together) suggested I bring Seth to see Tim in action. She thought it would be a powerful experience for him. So Seth joined us for the last hour of the workshop on Thursday. He clapped and danced and sang his little heart out.

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The concert was last night, but my feet are still a foot off the ground. Music is so healing. It is one of the only things in my life that allows me to be 100% present. Music with 60 other like minded, beautiful, dancing, joy-filled, talented people, being directed with so much love…was like nothing I’d ever experienced.

Todd drove the kids home after the performance. I left about twenty minutes behind them, and got caught in another nighttime thunderstorm on my way home. Visibility wasn’t good so I pulled over in a big empty parking lot and decided to turn off the car.

As I sat watching the storm, adrenaline continued to course through my body, and I allowed joyful tears to come.

I felt like I’d finally accepted my invitation to the party.

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Great Lakes Unity Music Conference in Cleveland

I’m off to the Great Lakes Unity Music Conference this afternoon! People are coming in from all over, but lucky for me it’s in my own back yard! Just a few spaces still available for any last minute people who want to come.

Love.

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Intolerant of Cruelty

Monday at Girls On the Run, we discussed bullying. What it is. Ways to deal with it. What to do if it occurs. Riley did fine during the general discussion. She participated. She did fine throughout the warm up exercises.

Then, each girl recevied a piece of paper with 8 different scenarios. They were to read a scenario, run a lap while considering said scenario, and in between laps write down what they would do in the given situation. 

Riley looked ahead to the second scenario, and emotionally fell apart. 

“You see a little girl in your neighborhood being bullied by older, bigger girls.” 

Crouching beside the school building, eyes full of tears, hands over her ears she repeated,

“I don’t want to think about this! I don’t want to think about this!”

The mere thought of anyone being mean to anyone else, for any reason, is intolerable  to her.

Two friends tried to comfort her. They offered words of encouragement and took turns staying with her. In the end, she finally was able to complete one out of eight laps.

Now, that’s a sad little story, isn’t it? 

Here’s the tale from a Law of Attraction standpoint.

There is a little girl, walking around in “the vortex.”  The vortex is her happy place, where All is Well. It isn’t really magical. It is her natural state, but to many it feels magical since they spend so much time bumping around miserably outside of the vortex themsleves. Riley, despite her meltdowns, spends more time in the vortex than most. She lives in there, feeling joy at the extreme, and it is so very painful for her to be yanked out of it. Thus the screaming.  

So adults, in their effort to prepare her for situations that “might” happen, warn her about things like bullying. It reminds her of a time when she was four, when some children left her out. It takes her to a place of feeling fearful and vulnerable, a place she wasn’t presently experiencing, but has now been brought back to, thus making her more likely to attract a bully, since bullies are always coming from fear and vulnerabilty themselves. Like attracts like. I’m not blaming children who are being bullied for attracting the bullies. “Attraction” does not mean the same as intentionally inviting. I’m not saying bullying is ever okay or that it should be tolerated. What I’m saying is the powerless and fearful vibration of a bully and their victim are always a match. 

And here’s the tricky part. What is good for one person, might be all wrong for someone else.   

When I was in my twenties, I was heavy duty into a full contact self-defense class. In terms of Law of Attraction, some might think taking the class would be inviting an attacker into my world. Thinking about attacks, practicing simulated scenarios, pummeling a “mugger” with my hands and feet, might just be a bad idea. You get what you think about, right? And that might have been true for some.

But for me, it was just the opposite. Since I felt like I knew how to protect myself, I no longer walked around feeling so scared and vulnerable. Giving off a vibration of strength, I was much less likely to be attacked.   

Some children might feel a lot safer, having a script, knowing what to say to a bully. They might feel empowered, and not have to think about it much thereafter. For Riley this exercise wasn’t the way to go. It made her more likely to be scared, and attract the very thing she fears.

Self-empowerment for Riley will come in through a different door. Aside from a couple of small playground skirmishes, she’s rarely been the target of any kind of cruelty. Educating her peers and the adults around her has been a crucial part of this. People are so thoughtful and understanding when they know what’s going on. For us, that’s where we will continue to focus.  

Nothing in this world is one size fits all, but if cruelty were as unfathomable to all, as it is to Riley, the world might be a much better place.

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Circle of Friends Rigamarole

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Friday, we had a Circle of Friends meeting at our house. We played a game from Little Women called Rigamarole, where a story is started, and each person adds onto it, and it becomes very funny with all the twists and turns of ten people’s imaginations. In an amazing display of bravery and willingness, Riley began the story, then went around to each of her friends, recording them on her iPOD, so we could play it back. The story’s title was “Beware of Over Sized Bananas.”  In the photo above, Riley and her friends (and her brother) are attempting to listen to it on her iPod, but it came out too faint for ten noisy girls (and a sweet boy) to hear, so I had to quickly type it up and send the girls home with copies.     

Riley did very well. After two rounds of Rigamarole and snacks, the girls went upstairs to play.

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Riley appeared content to kind of watch what the other girls were doing with her stuff this time. It seemed to be too overwhelming to get right in there like she does with Seth or friends she knows really well. The girls were here for about two hours total, so a little over an hour up in her room. 

15 minutes before they were scheduled to leave, Riley came downstairs claiming “boredom.”

She did not lose it on her friends. She did not melt down. She did not whine, or cry. She came downstairs and told her mom and dad she was bored. She took care of herself. She removed herself from the room! In our book that is cause for celebration. That is heroic. That makes her the coolest kid on earth, and us, her parents, cool by proxy!

She saw all her friends off with unprompted hugs and told each of them, “Thank you for coming.” 

She went on to have a terrific evening, and a wonderful weekend. 

She is such a good person. I am so proud of her, and I wish it was easier for her.

No one tries harder than Riley.

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The Thrill of the Ride

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Yesterday, I took my son to the Kalahari Indoor Waterpark.  

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He had so much fun, riding the waves on an inner tube in the wave pool.  He hasn’t been swimming for very long, and doesn’t like water hitting him in the face, but he overcame it because the thrill of the ride was worth it. After an hour or two, he was just dealing with it, laughing with glee each time a wave caught his tube and took him in toward fake shore.  I watched for hours, marveling at how easy and joyful he is. How fun. How beautiful. How sweet. Whenever his raft hit anyone else (and it was inevitable, everyone’s tube crashed into everyone else’s) he would ask, “Are you okay?” and mean it. This boy is so very aware of other people, and so considerate.

This day was about him and I vowed to let him stay as long as he wanted. We were there 10:30AM -1:00PM, then again from 3-6:30PM. Waterlogged, both of us.

In between waves, we took a couple of trips down a winding fake river, floating on a double innertube. He was in front, hanging over the edge with his arms, kicking his legs.  I relaxed in the back, enjoying the slow floaty ride.

There was a kiddie section, which was basically a climbing structure, where water got dumped on your head constantly. Good times. (If you like water dumped on your head).    

We said to hell with the organic diet and ate at Friendly’s, his favorite. Then we stayed at a hotel. The waterpark is just an hour or so from home, but the hotel stay made it a real trip for him. The Marriot. Gotta have the Marriot, with the cotton sheets. Not the plastic polyester crap. Marriot all the way, baby! It’s not more expensive and they give you four pillows each. Bedding is important.

We goofed on each other before lights out. Taking silly pictures. 

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Meanwhile, back at the ranch, HT took Riley bowling for the first time at Freeway Lanes in Mentor. It is something he enjoyed as a kid. Luckily they were the only people in the alley. No one for her to compare herself to. One time, her ball landed two lanes over, but she wound up doing okay, bowled a 71 (means nothing to me). They had fun.

Then they found  “Brittany” at a local bookstore. Love was in the air…

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Riley decided to break up with Alvin, because it was clear he was in love with Brittany.

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Lucky for him, she does not hold a grudge, and seems just as happy to observe their relationship from afar.

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Seth got home in time to go to the birthday party of the little girl who could not keep her hands off him at the school dance. (Spell her name backwards).

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I got home in time to rehearse with Windsong, Cleveland’s glorious women’s chorus which I’m lucky to be a part of. BTW, Windsong’s 30 Year Journey, Coming Into My Years concert is coming up on May 23rd, 4PM, The Church of the Covenant on Euclid for any Clevelanders who might want to come!  

HT and I even got a little walk in this afteroon while Seth was at the party, and Riley was indisposed with her DSi. We went two miles, all the while looping back around to check in on her. 

HT loves it when I take his picture as we walk.

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Okay, love is a strong word.

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But he does love me.

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As I watched Seth in the water, getting hit with the waves, I thought life is kind of like that. You get hit in the face. You get tired. You bump up against other people. You might even have buckets dumped on your head, but the thrill of the ride is worth it.

There might be a lot of drama, but the highs! The highs are so good!

I’ve heard, on a spiritual level, that’s why we all agreed to be here.

For the thrill of the ride.

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Evolution of Dance

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Yippee for HT

Emotional roller coaster week for Riley. She’s still not quite back to her baseline. So much screaming.

It feels like the family is holding on by a thread. Actually, Seth is seeming quite okay, but he’s gone a lot at school. He’s begging to be homeschooled next year too, but man little buddy, you might just need the break.

Riley’s cello teacher finally came out and said it; she doesn’t feel qualified to teach her. She thinks a different instrument would be better. Like piano. She’s taught cello for decades, and decades, but she can’t teach my girl. I feel like laughing one of those crazy laughs, one that might turn into a cry, but just hangs on maniacally instead.

So many people think we are making a big deal out of nothing with this kid. Let her be! She’s FINE! She’ll be FINE! You hover! I just don’t seeee it?

It’s the teachers who get it though. The teachers understand what we are dealing with. The slightest bit of constructive criticism is cause for self flagellation. This week at cello she had three meltdowns (in a half hour) and crawled under a piano to hide. All because the teacher was making minor adjustments regarding her bow grip and finger placement. In a kind voice.

At clay class today, Todd (he had the pleasure, since he was off work) had to take her out in the hall three different times. The last time, as he was trying to talk her off the cliff, out of the corner of his eye, he noted Jingle starting to squat. She proceeded to have diarrhea right there in the hall.

Insert Todd’s maniacal laugh.

The good news is, it jolted Riley out of her meltdown. The bad news is, there wasn’t a paper towel on the premises, so Todd had to make several trips down a long hallway to a bathroom and sop it up with toilet paper.

Three cheers for Todd.

Earlier in the week, at a local park, Riley was trying to climb and it was not a good climbing day. She was on the play structure screaming, and we were trying to give her space to let her work it through (but that never quite happened). It was unseasonably cold. I was shivering and Todd said…, wait for it…

“I’m freezing my yippee off.”

A new term. Folks, this is what happens when you suppress your God given drive to swear. Let this be a warning. 

And another HT anecdote, just to cheer me up from the cello bomb, is this:  At the end of church service the congregation joins hands in a circle and sings Let There Be Peace On Earth (and let it begin with me…). Well,Todd is really only used to holding hands with me or the kids, and he absentmindedly, inadvertently locked fingers with the grown man next to him. It took a couple of beats, but this suddenly felt very uncomfortable, and he had to rather awkwardly extract his digits and switch to the regular fingers/palm hand holding position. He told me about the whole fiasco later.

I don’t know why I find this so funny, but I do. There is a hand holding etiquette, no? I wouldn’t be locking fingers with just anyone, that’s for sure.

“You’re not writing about yippee, are you?” he asks as he sees me chuckling and tap tap tapping on the keyboard. I’ve been threatening to out yippee all week.

“Not only that,” I say.

He pauses at the bottom of the steps, sighs, and says,

“Write whatever you want if it gets you smiling again.”

Then, he turns and walks up the steps toward bed.

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He Gives Me Hope

Who is this guy? Find out at Hopeful Parents today.

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Asperger’s on Arthur

I recently joined a Yahoo group  for Moms of Asperger Girls. One of the mothers who posts is a blogger named Misty and I just saw this video on her website. I don’t know when it came out? Somehow it slipped past my radar.

Of course I looked it up to view the whole episode, and I am sitting here teary, in a heap of tissues. I don’t know. It just really touches me someone cared enough to research, and write this episode and others cared enough to put it together. It is sometimes easy to believe the world at large doesn’t give a damn about our kids. Disrespectful pediatricians, insurance companies that won’t cover anything, school districts that don’t get it, the list goes on and on.   

For people to go out of their way to teach other children about kids with Asperger’s and what they go through. Well, it’s just…hand me another tissue please.   

I am filled with appreciation.

To see the full episode click here.

Thank you Misty.

Thank you PBS.

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Girls On the Run Teaches Assertive Communication

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Yesterday at Girls on the Run the lesson was about being assertive. We practiced using language to get our message across if someone is bothering us. Careful language, no blaming. No “you always…!” Or “you never!” No yelling. No ignoring ’til you lose your cool and explode. This is the template:    

I feel…

When you…

Because…

I would like for you to…

Every girl had several chances to practice out loud in the group, situations they deal with in real life, using the assertive lingo.

The following is one of Riley’s. I found it especially funny because she never qualified who she was referring to in the exercise. 

I feel annoyed

When you pretend I’m a horse

Because it’s painful

I would like for you to get off me

Later at home, she repeated the exercise with Seth, who duly noted her assertions.

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There, that feels better

I got rid of my ad.

You see, in order to have it, I had to squish and distort my header picture, because the ads had to be right up at the top. Every time I looked at it,every time,it irritated me. The enforced Blogher blog roll bugged me too. It was takin’ up too much space, man. For me, the itty-bitty amount of cha-ching wasn’t worth it. To each her own, but I feel like I just took off a too tight pair of jeans. No figurative camel toes on Full Soul Ahead. All I’m sayin.’

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