Happy Birthday Hot Toddy!

Today my sweet husband is 45.  








He ushered in 45, staying up all night with Seth who was puking. He took the big rug out of Seth’s room and hung it over the deck to be hosed off later. He took load after load of towels and sheets two flights down to the basement to be washed. He soothed his sick boy.

Todd and I both had the same bug earlier in the week. It wasn’t pretty.

The only thing he wanted for his birthday, was an evening with me.


I arranged a sitter and planned a date at a wonderful restaurant. I’ll be calling soon to cancel.

It might not seem like a big deal, but seriously, it was. We rarely get out together. He’s very disappointed.

This is Todd and Seth kickin’ back in our little cabin on the Alaska 2008 cruise. Tight squeeze in that room, but we had the best time. He loves his boy.









This is the young hospital pharmacist I fell in love with.

todd & michelle pharmacy 1996 

I didn’t know him back in the 80’s when he was a pirate, and it is one of my regrets. He’s never so much as said, “Arrgh” to me.


Here he is with Riley at Seth’s preschool dance  a few years back.

He never wavers about her. He holds a vision of her being successful, and powerful and happy in this world. He claimed it the day she was born. I didn’t see her for a couple of hours after they got her out, but he did. He was with her the whole time. He describes her eyes, as having been so aware, so wise. He’d never seen anything like it. She was otherworldly to him. “She’s here to do great things,” he always says.

When Seth was born, I heard his cries and remember Todd’s soft voice, all choked up, carrying him over to me, whispering to our new son,

“Hi buddy. Hi buddy.”   

Here we are at my friend Janet’s renaissance wedding a few years ago. He’s was a trooper about the costume, and he always puts up with my close up self-portraits of us. The more up your nose obnoxious the better.








Perhaps you are aware of his homework whispering talents? 

Or that fact that he recently went all the way with the bulb bald head.


Here he is getting a smooch from my sister. She loves him. How could she not?

Come hell or high water, baby. We’ll have our date. I promise. Not tonight, but another night soon.

You’re a good man Todd O’Neil.

I love you. I appreciate you.

Happy, happy birthday.

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20 Responses to Happy Birthday Hot Toddy!

  1. My husband and I had our first date last weekend. In FIVE years!! So I’m putting out extraspecial universe wishes that the planets align and you get your date … very soon!

  2. *m* says:

    Happy birthday to HT! It also the birthday of our (not so) little guy, who informs me that they also share this birthday with “Pierre Curie, co-discoverer of radium.”
    Who knew?

  3. Michelle O'Neil says:

    How funny *M*! Tell your boy Happy Birthday from the O’Neils!

  4. kario says:

    Despite the lack of a night out, I know that you guys will find a way to make HT’s evening very special. He deserves a terrific birthday and I know you will make it so.

    Happy Birthday, HT! Reap your rewards and know that, at least, you have a date to look forward to sometime soon.

  5. JoyMama says:

    Happy Birthday! I love the photos with the kids — and the two of you with the lilacs.

    Sorry about the date… be sure to set up another one soon, OK?

  6. drama mama says:

    Hell, *I* love and *I* appreciate you, Todd. Happy Birthday!

    M’ON – you’d better put out tonight.

  7. Lydia says:

    I’m a big fan of the bulb head 🙂

  8. Mom and Brian says:

    Take your birday present and have a little treat on us tonight when all is quiet.

  9. Carrie Link says:

    I am going to go ahead and declare myself the biggest HT fan of all. It’s not a contest, but I feel my love for him should be duly recognized.

    HAPPY BIRTHDAY, HT, and welcome to middle age!

  10. Kim says:

    Happy Birthday HT! From another woman who loves the bulb head (my GC has one too!)

  11. jess says:

    i’d follow him on tour

  12. Wanda says:

    Happy birthday, HT. You are THE MAN! Love you. Love your whole family. (So what if we’ve never met….)

  13. Amanda says:

    The international fan club hopes HT has the best belated birthday ever!

    Gotta love ‘im!

  14. Darlene says:

    there are so much love in these words of tribute to what is, undoubtably, a very special father and husband.

    Happy Birthday bulb pirate!

  15. naomi says:

    HBHT! 🙂

  16. Niksmom says:

    Happy Birthday, Todd! I gotta admit…you look pretty sexy without hair! Hope you & Michelle get a special night out soon!

  17. Betty says:

    Happy Birthday, Todd!
    We share the same birthday, but I’m a decade older.

  18. Michelle O'Neil says:

    Aw. Happy Birthday Betty!

  19. amber says:

    Umm, I’m just going to tell you that I think the all the way bald head is super sexy. I likey.


  20. Deb says:

    Happy Birthday, HT! May your celebration, when it comes, be much much more than you hoped for.

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