My mother is coming to visit today. I pick her up at the airport this afternoon. She will be here for five days. Riley and Seth are excited. They don’t really know her much, and truly, she only knows them from my blog. She’s only seen them a few times in their lives. I think she hasn’t really known if I wanted her in my life or what her place should be.
She had decided not to read my book, she didn’t want to go back to re-visit that time in our lives. I was fine with that because then I didn’t have to deal with her reaction to it. But in May she did read it. And she called my sister and her first words were, “It’s all true.”
That created an opening in me.
She supported me during the writing of it. She somehow knew it was therapeutic for me, and even if she didn’t come off smelling like a rose, she felt it was something I needed to do and she supported me. But to read it, and take it all in, and then validate it like that, I think shows courage.
I asked her to come this first time without her husband. I think we just need time to connect. Time to really sink into knowing each other without having to worry about or even consider anyone else. Todd will have my crew under control. I appreciate her husband understanding.
I want to meet each other where we are right now.
May our highest selves show up for this reunion. May we let go of old wounds and notions and ideas which no longer serve us. May it be a very good visit.
Amen.
Blessings to you Michele and hopes for a healing reunion.
amen, indeed.
Been there. (Not the whole book thing but the reconnecting thing.) I found it pretty tough going at first and things dont always run smoothly even now but we have come to accept our differences and respect each other. Sending you happy thoughts for a positive visit, may it build to a good place.
Brave indeed. That is a firm spot upon which to build. I, too, hope for a gentle reunion.
I know that as you enter in to this delicate dance, you will make the connection a meaningful one. The simple acknowledgment of the necessity of meeting each other where you are is one of the biggest steps. I know that when my father and I decided to do that, it began a chapter of our lives that were the most glorious, most loving eight years of my life. I am so glad I did it before he died.
Love to you both.
This is inspiring and you are so brave – I pray it all goes well!!
Best wishes to you both, may divine right order lead the way!
LOVE and YAMH.
wow. you are brave. and so is she. hope all goes well.
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I hope you and your mom have a visit that you both find healing. You both have been through so much. May this reunion be the beginning of letting go of the past, acceptance of the present and the start of a healthy, loving relationship. Hugs to you, Michelle.
Hoping for the visit you need right now. xo
May it be a good visit, Michelle. I suggested your book for our book club. Looking forward to reading it!
Wow. That’s intense. I am hoping for a good reunion and feel certain, from what little I know of you that beauty will come.
You are both very brave! I’ll be eager to hear how things go with the visit.
Oxoxox
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Thinking of you today Michelle. I hope the visit is going well, and look forward to hearing your impressions/ thoughts
Wow! I hope you are both able to connect in a positive way. I don’t have a great relationship with my own parents so I know the whole thing can be tricky with lots of conflicting emotions. I think it’s great that you guys are taking this step. Hugs. Lots of hugs!!!
Dear Michelle, today is the 20th and so your mother has been with you four days. I hope the visit is going well and that you are able to meet one another where both of you are today. She surely did show great courage in validating your book and you and your experience. Peace.
First of all – I can’t believe how much Riley looks like little Michelle! Secondly…..kudos to you for opening your heart when the opportunities arose…no matter what the outcome you have already moved forward.