Seth’s Significant Other

While Riley was with her tutor, Seth and I had a chance to talk.

“So….you dating anyone?” I asked.

He chuckled and rolled his eyes.

“Anyone you’re interested in?”

He nodded.

“Still got that thing for Quinn on Glee?

He smiled.

Still nursing that crush on Emma Roberts?


(It’s totally looking like the boy has a type)

He nodded again.

This seemed like the perfect time to bring up the requirements for his future partner. After all…at almost nine, he ain’t getting any younger. We decided to make a list:

1) She has to be kind.


2) She has to adore him.

How could she not?

3) She has to be smart.

To keep up with him.

4) She has to be creative.

To be interesting to him, and be able to collaborate and problem solve with him.

5) She has to love to dance and to read.

Because it is fun to share interests.

6) She has to love kids.

Because I need adorable grandchildren who look just like him.

7) She has to be beautiful.

We had a nice little discussion about what beauty is, and where it comes from. How it doesn’t matter what color skin, or body type, but how true beauty lights up a person from the inside.

8 ) She has to love his sister.


9) She has to be her own person with her own ideas.

She can’t just glob onto his thoughts, ideas, and dreams. She needs to be fully her. Girlfriend needs to bring a little somethin’ to the table.

10) He has to love her.

If she has all those things, yet he doesn’t feel the spark. It ain’t gonna work.

We go over the list, reversing it, making clear he has to be all those things as well.

I vowed to baby-sit so he and his partner can have regular date nights. I vowed to keep my lips zipped about whatever parenting choices they make, unless they ask for my opinion…and even then to tread lightly(which will be tricky, since it is my nature to butt in…thus this list). I vowed to always, always, look for things to appreciate about the person he loves.

I’m glad we had the chance to discuss all this. And for Seth, I’m sure it was a huge load off. I can’t imagine why he flew down the stairs the second the tutor asked if he wanted to join them for science.

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5 Responses to Seth’s Significant Other

  1. Amanda says:

    Hmmm…. you sure any girl will be good enough for your boy?? ;D

    and saying you won’t butt in is kind of a heads up that’s going to happen – hope it’s not for a looooong time yet

    PS Can’t really see me having this conversation with mine so living vicarioulsy through your post

  2. Courtney says:

    This is adorable! Are the requirements in any particular order?

  3. Michelle O'Neil says:

    Thanks Courtney!

    I wouldn’t say any particular order but kindness does top the list.

  4. kario says:

    You crack me up! I love this! I only wish either of my girls would tolerate this conversation with me, but maybe I’ll live vicariously through you.

  5. amber says:

    You are so funny.
    But also smart. And I don’t just say that because I have had this talk with both my kids…You know, the 10 and 6 year olds in my house. lmao


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