About 13-14 years ago I was a hospital pharmacy technician, putting myself through school, getting a second bachelor’s degree, this time in nursing.
I got sick of taking orders from Todd, so I turned the tables and married him.
When we got engaged, many people warned us about marriage. We worked with a lot of married people, and most of them basically said, it sucks. We would shake our heads, incredulous. How could it suck? We were so happy! We fit perfectly together. We were riding off into the sunset! Nothing they said could kill our buzz.
It has not sucked, but it’s been harder than we expected.
Our lives together have taken very different turns from where we thought we were headed.
Looking back, I did not have a clue about marriage.
Todd did though. The day I walked down the aisle, I could see it in his face. After all my rush, rush, rush to get engaged and get married, he was the one who was steadfast. He was the one who was sure.
He’s never wavered in his love for me. He has never wavered in his belief in me, or in Riley, or in Seth.
Today is our 12 year anniversary. Over the years, there have been many challenges. Despite his steadfastness, my knight has on occasion fallen off the very high pedestal I had him on while we were dating. Today, I ask him to forgive me for ever putting him up there in the first place.
He’s human, like he always said he was.
In some ways it feels like we are just getting started. Just getting real. Beginning a new, grown-up kind of love. One where I don’t hold him responsible for my happiness. One where he is safe to express how he really feels. It is exciting.
There is so much of him I still don’t know.
I do know this, you are my family Todd O’Neil.
We’re in this together.
I love you, and I’m very glad to have married you.
Thank you for loving me.